This Trial Might Be For You


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In the twenty years we’ve been doing this ministry, I’ve noticed some trends in the way people view the personal, fiery trial of divorce, and I’ve come to believe that in order to view this trial correctly, it must be viewed in the light of God’s eternal purpose for both of the parties involved. I also believe that earthly pain is designed by God to fulfill an eternal purpose in the life of a believer.
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation; that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also abounds through Christ. Now if we are afflicted, it is for your consolation and salvation, which is effective for enduring the same sufferings which we also suffer. Or if we are comforted, it is for your consolation and salvation”. 2Corinthians 1:3-6

This passage seems to indicate that earthly pain can and should be viewed as a gift of eternal currency. In this new year, I believe your earthly pain is a gift that God wants to place in the vault of your life, to be held in reserve, so that it might gain interest and value in eternal dividends, as you digest that pain and make it personal, so you might spend that currency later in eternal influence in the life of someone else.

So if it sounds like I’m saying that I believe you and I might have been selected for this precious, earthly gift of intense personal pain for the sake of God’s eternal purpose. Forgive me, but I’m not sure I don’t believe that. That’s why I feel so strongly about those who seek to soothe the pain of this season by quickly pursuing another person to fill the void left by a departing spouse.

I don’t mean to be harsh, but regardless of what anyone else on the planet might be doing with their personal season of pain, I believe you are God’s employee, and your job right now is to lean into the pain and allow it to have its full and true seasoning effect upon your character. I know that is a tough commitment to make, especially if your former spouse has already filled the void in their lives with the comfort of another person, but that’s really the purpose of this discussion.

If you are fretting too long, over the decisions of an individual who has left or divorced you, or if you are allowing the decisions of another person to derail your Godly future in any way, I hope you’ll hear from my heart that it’s time for you to stop. If someone else in the midst of your trial, is choosing to view this trial incorrectly, chances are this trial is not for them, chances are, this trial might be for you.

I still believe that God has set you apart for something special, and I believe you can have it if you want it bad enough to remain set apart long enough to get hold of it. My plea for you, is that you DO want that. I believe that God has a specific plan for every bit of eternal currency He hands out in the disguise of an impossible trial. And I believe it’s a shame either to disinvest it, or not hold on to it long enough for it to mature to its full value.

I know all of this is a difficult concept, and I believe it’s borne out in the scripture above. But if you’re not willing to accept it in the way I present it, please consider this: Neither of you can go back and make your marriage good again. That door has closed and that ship has sailed. So all that either of you have is the future. You and your ex must now live that future as separate individuals before God. So you can view this trial as a curse from hell, or you can view it as a gift, wrapped in a bad circumstance, to allow you to have intimate access with your tears and your brokenness, to a part of the loving, merciful heart of a holy God that not everyone has access to.

If neither of you is willing to do anything with that season of loving access, because both of you are too worried or preoccupied with the other one, then all of this hurt, pain and tragedy will be wasted. And that, dear one, would be a crying shame… So please stop soothing the pain with outside influences, and please start allowing the Lord to make the investment in you, regardless of what anyone else does. Because this trial may not be for them, this trial might be God’s gift to you, to let 1 Corinthians 3 work within you to gain the truth and insight to be a comfort and an example for the broken ones coming along behind you. That truth won’t come easily and it won’t happen overnight, but it is pure heavenly gold and it’s worth getting hold of. As always, thanks for reading, and please leave your comments…

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  1. Noelle

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