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“When evening had come, they brought to Him many who were demon-possessed. And He cast out the spirits with a word, and He healed all who were sick, that it might be fulfilled which was spoken by Isaiah the prophet, saying: ‘He himself took our infirmities and bore our sicknesses.” Matthew 8:16-17
In our ministry, we speak mostly to people who are stuck somewhere in life. Many of the people we speak to are often still involved with exes who are stuck as well. In this era of Christian and non-Christian psychology, people who are stuck in life are usually labeled with some kind of disorder. Someone may have an obsessive compulsive disorder, or they may have a borderline personality disorder, or a bi-polar disorder, or possibly an obstinate defiant disorder, and the list goes on… Often, when we discover the issue(s) we might be suffering from (or the issue someone else might suffer from), we naturally want to fix it. || Read more

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We recently had a discussion about the nature of many single adults to be drawn in relationship to controlling individuals. We discussed how difficult it seems to be to break that destructive cycle. We know that many couples practice some sort of subtle control over one another in the course of their relationship, and while that behavior isn’t healthy, it’s pretty normal. || Read more

We Don’t Fit Here

Aug
2010
08

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This is Joanne. I’m reading “The Sacred Romance” by Brent Curtis and John Eldredge for the second time now, and a section has brought me to tears. Again. See, we all want to be special to someone. We all want to be someone’s hero. We all remember in school, how desperately we wanted to be good at something. We remember how desperately we wanted to be one of the “chosen ones.” We wanted to be picked for the good team when we “chose up sides”, and we wanted to be chosen first instead of last. When we saw the “Cool kids” sitting at their own table in the cafeteria, we wanted to join them, and we wanted them to want us there. || Read more

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I’m learning that, when God wants me to move into something new, He turns up the heat in the place where I’m camping out. If I am willing to move out of my comfort zone to follow where God is leading, I will enjoy the cool of His peace and shelter. If I’m stubborn and unwilling to step out of my comfort zone to follow Him, I’ve learned that God is patient with me, but if I if I make Him wait too  long, God will move away from me and He will take His covering shelter with Him. If I’m determined to try God’s patience, God will allow me to stay in the heat of my circumstance until I run to catch up with Him. We find this example in Exodus 13. || Read more

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We all have good reasons for the things we do. If you’re like me, much of what you think and do has its genesis in some of the little mottos you might have formed your thoughts around before you were a Christian. Maybe your parents, teachers or friends spoke these little mottos as “Words to live by”. || Read more

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Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. Philippians 4:8
Have you ever gone into a room where a fishbowl has been left unattended for a long time? It’s not very pretty. We discuss in our book, “Working through the Crisis”, the concept of our mind being like that fishbowl. If our mind is not refreshed with new water on a regular basis, it will become stagnant and stale, it’s hold upon the oxygen of truth will fade away, and the living things inside the bowl will die. To paint a picture, if we leave our mind alone with no intervention or refreshment from the Lord for any length of time, it will become a stinking mess.  || Read more

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“Then Jesus was led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil.” Mattthew 4:1
When Jesus was filled with the Holy Spirit, the first thing the Father did was to lead Him into the desert. Whom did Jesus meet in the desert? He met Satan. But Jesus didn’t carry the devil to the desert with Him, the devil was already in the desert places waiting for Jesus to arrive. And Satan still lives in the low and lonely, abandoned desert places, and he is waiting for you to allow your mind to get there, so he can beat you with the stick you’ve handed him. I know that sounds harsh and we want to encourage you, so please pull yourself out of the wilderness, because Satan lives there and he hates you. But he doesn’t just hate you, he hates everybody. || Read more

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I know it’s problematic when we say that marriage is more of a business decision than a romantic decision, but many of us haven’t exactly created a positive history for ourselves regarding those to whom we’ve given the job of husband and wife. So I want to make a correlation between deciding to take a marriage partner to serve and make a home with; and deciding to take a partner to work with, to bring success to our business. These are constructive thoughts and I believe they’re important to place in our relationship toolbox, || Read more

You Ruined My Life

May
2010
16

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My divorce has been in the ancient history books for a long time. I know the experience has made me a different person than I was before it happened. God has used my divorce to bring encouragement to a lot of folks, so I am mostly settled into being thankful for the experience, and I am pretty settled on forgiveness, grace and ambivalence toward the people who might have been a party to the end of my former marriage. But something happened a few years ago that was life-changing for me || Read more

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Recently, Chuck Colson commented on his Breakpoint Radio Series that “Divorce Can Make You Sick”. He was quoting from Time magazine and the New York Times on a study done by some doctors that the stress of going through a divorce can affect your health, sometimes for the long term. Since our ministry is most often utilized by those who’ve had the divorce decision put upon them by a spouse who was either unwilling to stay in the marriage, or unwilling to stop their marriage-ending behavior, we find this study to be no big surprise! || Read more