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Has anyone else noticed this life is getting harder to live? Everything just seems so much more difficult than it ever has been. Our family members seem to be harder to get along with. We and our long-term friends are having trouble. Our church friends aren’t as forgiving toward us as they could, or possibly should be. We are often strained at every turn to simply hold the ends together. My little job in the church is to be an encourager, so I want to encourage you today. I want to let you know that God knows that you are weary. God knows that you long for the days when life was easy. But God also wants you to know that He has made these days for you, and He has made you for these days... || Read more

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Have you ever noticed that some people just have trouble throwing things away? Have you seen the reports of police or paramedics finding people living in their homes with many years of trash piled up around them? The medical people sometimes have to use a piece of equipment just to get these people out of their homes. And many times we see that a lot of the stuff in these houses is junk mail. It’s stuff these people never asked for, but they got anyway. || Read more

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An individual named Thomas asked this question recently in a comment to a blog I wrote a few months ago… Thomas, I changed your words to make them more concise, and I tried to ask your permission but my email was returned. I hope I’m okay in answering you on this page, because yours is a question which is shared by many we chat with on a daily basis…
“Jeff, I’ve found that my former spouse continues to beat me up emotionally and I’ve come to believe that it must be something I’m allowing her to do, but I’m not sure how to stop her because she uses our children to get to me. I’ve read your words many times that we should remove from our exes hands, the sticks they are using to beat us down, and we should also break the chains they are using to bind us so securely to our former lives. But I really need to know how you would suggest I remove those sticks and chains in a situation where the two of us still have children together, because my vindictive former spouse can totally use the leverage she has in our children to beat me up, and she can also use our children to bind me to my former life with her. So how exactly do I “disengage altogether” from my ex, as long as we are co-parenting children?” || Read more

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Anybody can be just plain well. So many times we ask ourselves, “What would my life have been if all of these things hadn’t happened to me?”. Or we ask, “Why do other people get off so easy in life, and why am I such a mess?”. Everyone has trials and complications in life, and you can’t really know, from this side of heaven, what the purpose might be for all the things which have come through your life. Your finite mind simply cannot figure out what an infinite God might be using to bring about His eternal plans and purposes in your life.

Now, I’m not saying that God planned your divorce or separation.

Most of us have asked the question, “If God knew my spouse and I wouldn’t make it, why did He let us get together?” Or we ask, “Why couldn’t we fix our relationship, when others seem to pull their marriages together?” || Read more

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“If your hand causes you to sin, cut it off. It is better for you to enter into life maimed, rather than having two hands, to go to hell. And if your foot causes you to sin, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life lame, rather than having two feet, to be cast into hell”. And if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye, rather than having two eyes, to be cast into hell fire. For everyone will be seasoned with fire, and every sacrifice will be seasoned with salt”. Mark 9:43-49
Being single is challenging. Physical and moral purity is a tall order indeed, but I believe God is serious about it. This passage of Scripture describes a scene where Jesus sat His disciples down and explained His idea of purity to them in very graphic terms that were hard for them to hear. These things are hard for us to hear as well. Was Jesus suggesting that we remove our body parts? Well, no… || Read more

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We humans love to be in love. It’s magical. Something special fills the air when a couple is in love. You might meet at a Starbucks or at a church group, your eyes meet, then your eyes meet again. He or she might give a little smirk and you might smile back. If you’re lucky and you don’t mince your words, you might be able to exchange a casual greeting. On your way home you might say to yourself – “I think I’m in love!” Those are thrilling moments, but are those feelings really love? How do you know if those feelings are the beginning of a long-term relationship or just an episode of short-term infatuation?  To understand the difference, I believe there are twelve tests that will help you differentiate between love and infatuation. || Read more

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I read a pamphlet several years ago which discussed the four basic personality types that most people were born with. These concepts have been around a long time. In fact, this pamphlet was published in response to the knowledge that many Christians who came out of the “Love generation” were bringing their beliefs in astrological signs and horoscopes with them, incorporating that mythology into Biblical truth. Now, most of us realize that Satan is called “The Prince of the Air” for a reason, and we don’t expect to discover God’s voice by studying the stars, but the astrological signs we used back then gave us a way to quantify the different personality types we found in people… || Read more

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I am often surprised in my conversations with single Christians, that there are those who do not have a list of preset requirements which they’ve determined must be in place before they would consider a romantic relationship with someone. I know we don’t want to seem judgmental, so we’re often tempted to leave these things in the hands of God, perhaps to leave His options open to bring His perfect one to us.
I believe we should have in place, some established ideas regarding the nature of a quality Christian relationship, because we simply cannot continue to invest our lives in troubled or disastrous relationships and marriages. With that in mind, I’ve created a short list of requirements for us to consider in deciding whether to pursue a relationship opportunity if it were to present itself in the future… || Read more

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I’ve learned in the course of my life, that I only get so much grace for one day, and when I run out of grace for my day; that’s it, I won’t get a fresh dose of grace until tomorrow. I usually run out of grace toward the end of the day. That’s when I know it’s time for me to put myself to bed and go to sleep, so I can forget about the trials of today and be refreshed for the trials that will come tomorrow. I know there are some days when I’ll climb out of bed in the morning and I’ll look back at my bed and say, “Bed, I’m looking forward to seeing you tonight”, because I know that God’s grace is new every morning, and I know that my day is going to burn up all of the niceness and grace I’ve got. || Read more

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In our seasons of crisis and despair, we might ask the questions, “Why did this happen to me?” or “Why is God so mean to me?” Matthew 5:45 says “For He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust”. So the fact is that life on this earth is just not fair, but we must remind ourselves that God is still loving, gracious and good, He still has justice in His nature and He is still totally sovereign. We must also remember that we live in a fallen world, so bad things will happen to good people. We also know that good and bad things happen to bad folks as well. So we want to discuss the benefits of asking the “what” questions, rather than the “why” questions, like “God, what do you want to do in my life through this trial of crisis, chaos or confusion”, rather than ” God, why are you treating me so bad?… || Read more